There’s a story from the Buddhist tradition in which an older monk asked his young disciple, “Would you like to see the Buddha?”
“Yes! Yes!” the monk answered excitedly. “Show me the Buddha!”
The older monk pulled a curtain aside and the young man found himself looking at a mirror.
In my coaching practice I’ve noticed that some, not all, of my clients are masters when it comes to inventing excuses as to why they can’t or don’t have everything they desire. Some, not all, are also really skilled at blaming other people for why they’re so unhappy.
“I couldn’t help myself.”
“My kids needed me.”
“I told Jim to handle it.”
“I had a horrible childhood.”
“I don’t get support from my husband (wife).”
“I don’t know how.”
The scary thing when I hear people making excuses or blaming others (including me) for what’s going wrong in their life, is that they believe what they’re saying. They think that they’re telling the truth.
If you’re going to have the very best life has to offer to you, you’re going to have to give up the excuses. You’re going to have to stop blaming others. You have to stop being a victim. You have to look into a mirror.