It’s been my experience that “people pleasers” seem to be “nice,” but are often seething with anger inside.
What area of your life has people pleasing caused you to feel resentment, powerless, or made you feel like giving up?
Is your desire to be liked, to look nice, and put others before you really getting you what you want? Really?
Or could that energy be better used to increase your sense of deserving, joy, and self love?
I have a client named Thom. When Thom first came to see me, he had tears in his eyes from the start of our session. He was abused sexually as a child, and made to feel as though he didn’t matter. He hated life, he hated people, and most of all, he hated himself. You wouldn’t know it though. He was a “nice” guy. He was someone people easily took advantage of. He was a walking, talking victim.
Today was his fourth session with me. “I’m not a victim,” he told me. “I’m a person with past experiences. I wouldn’t wish those experiences on anyone, but what I’ve realized is that they made me who I am today.”
Now, that’s what I’m talking about!
What three actions could you take this week that would be pleasing to you? Take them.