This IS Important! Your First Step

I love to tell stories in my private practice, as well as the workshops and seminars I do. I believe we can let a lot from stories. One of the stories I tell is about the young fish who heard about a mystery called “water.” He asked fish after fish, after fish, that he met what this thing called “water” is.

They all admitted to having heard of it, but had no clue what it was. Finally he asks an old fish who just looks as him and laughs.

Our beliefs our like that. They’re invisible to us like water is to a fish.

In order to change the beliefs that aren’t serving you, you must first know what they are. But if they’re unconscious and habitual, how, exactly, do you know what you believe? It’s really simple. Take a look at your life.

If you don’t have enough money, and you’re always broke, you believe that you’re broke. It’s that simple. It could also be a belief that you deserve less money than you need.

Are you overweight? Can’t seem to drop the excess weight no matter what you do? Or if you do slim down, you put it back on? Guess what. You believe that whatever weight you don’t want to be at is the weight you’re supposed to be at.

Are you lonely? Want to be in a loving relationship but aren’t? What do you think your beliefs about relationships are?

Keep in mind, that you’re beliefs will always override your desires. So what can you do about it?

Accept that you are more than you believe you are. That’s your first step. That is why I asked you who you admire, and why admire them. So you can acknowledge things about yourself that you’ve been denying. So you can see what you are capable of being and doing. You have unlimited potential.

If you haven’t done this yet, please write down the name of someone now. If you already have, keep reading.

Write a list of what you admire about them.

Then ask yourself why those things are true about you.

For example, I told you that one of my role models is Jack Canfield. Here’s my list of the characteristics I admire about him –



Prolific author

Public speaker


Renowned success coach

Wealthy (I added this one after I wrote the post.)

The next step is to write down, and ask myself, “Why questions.”

“Why am I charismatic?”

“Why am I authentic?”

“Why am I a prolific author?”

“Why do I inspire people?”

“Why am I wealthy?”

“Why am I a public speaker who is in demand?”

“Why am I a renowned success coach?”

Are any of these true for me now? Not according to my belief system they aren’t. But every time, and every day, I ask these questions, my RAS will look for answers, and present what it finds to my habitual mind, which accepts what it receives without question.

Then my brain will literally rewire itself  to make these new beliefs a reality. (I’ll talk more about this tomorrow.)

The key to making this work is to ask yourself these questions constantly, for at least 6 weeks. (I’ll talk about why tomorrow as well.)

When you ask the questions, don’t answer them. If you do, you’ll be doing so from your current awareness and beliefs. Just ask the questions. Let God, the Goddess, the Universe, Source (however you refer to the Creator) answer them for you.

I know from experience, not only my own, but those of my clients who have done this as well, that this exercise works every time to transform beliefs as to who we are. The more times you ask your questions every day, the quicker your beliefs about yourself – who you are, and what you can create and accomplish in your life – will change.

Do this TODAY. Not soon, not eventually, not someday. As far as your habitual mind is concerned, there is no such thing as the future. There is no past. There is only NOW.

NOW is the time to step into your greatness. NOW is the time to shine your light.

The world needs you to do this. The world is waiting for you to do this.

Yes, I’m serious.