Day 1 of the “90 Day Experiment”

The word “decision” comes from the Latin words “de cadere,” which means “to kill off.” In other words, something has to go. Choices have to be made; options have to die.

As you’ve learned, if you’ve been following this blog, our memories determine our beliefs. Our beliefs determine the way we “see” reality. The way we see reality determines the choices we make. The choices we make (typically unconsciously), determine the outcomes we experience.

If you haven’t done so already, today is the day to make a choice that will move you forward, today, tomorrow, and every day of this year.

Reflect on an area of your life that you’d like to be different. What is it you want to change? Be specific.

Is there someone you know who is already experiencing in their life what you want to experience in yours?

Write their name down, and all of the characteristics about them that you admire. Claim them as yours by asking, “Why am I __________ (fill in the blank with the characteristic you admire)? Do this as many times as you have characteristics written down.

Create a vision board with images of how you want your life to look different. Look at your board at least twice a day.

What disempowering thoughts do you have around this change? Change them into empowering questions (afformations). Ask these questions at least 5 times a day.

Pay attention to your emotions as you do these exercises. What is the emotional pay off to not making the change you want? Are you addicted to the feeling?

Do all of the above for the next 40 days. If you do this, your life will be dramatically different in 90.

Become the Person You Admire

Whenever you find yourself admiring a quality in someone else, it’s a quality you yourself have but have been denying. By not acknowledging this quality, you force it to remain dormant. It becomes like a pool of water that stagnates, becoming toxic, turning against you, instead of working for you.

If you want to find out what you’re capable of, ask yourself, “Who do I admire and why?” Whatever it is that draws you to a particular person, whether it’s someone you know personally, or admire from afar, it’s a seed of potential that’s within you, waiting to be nurtured into life.

This week, identify the qualities of that person you’re drawn to, and figure out how you can make them characteristics of your own life. Take action to express each one of the traits for the next 21 days in a row (that’s how long it takes to develop a new habit). In seemingly no time at all, you’ll be displaying the very same qualities you admire in another, and someone else will be inspired by you.