Day 1 of the “90 Day Experiment”

The word “decision” comes from the Latin words “de cadere,” which means “to kill off.” In other words, something has to go. Choices have to be made; options have to die.

As you’ve learned, if you’ve been following this blog, our memories determine our beliefs. Our beliefs determine the way we “see” reality. The way we see reality determines the choices we make. The choices we make (typically unconsciously), determine the outcomes we experience.

If you haven’t done so already, today is the day to make a choice that will move you forward, today, tomorrow, and every day of this year.

Reflect on an area of your life that you’d like to be different. What is it you want to change? Be specific.

Is there someone you know who is already experiencing in their life what you want to experience in yours?

Write their name down, and all of the characteristics about them that you admire. Claim them as yours by asking, “Why am I __________ (fill in the blank with the characteristic you admire)? Do this as many times as you have characteristics written down.

Create a vision board with images of how you want your life to look different. Look at your board at least twice a day.

What disempowering thoughts do you have around this change? Change them into empowering questions (afformations). Ask these questions at least 5 times a day.

Pay attention to your emotions as you do these exercises. What is the emotional pay off to not making the change you want? Are you addicted to the feeling?

Do all of the above for the next 40 days. If you do this, your life will be dramatically different in 90.

Hooked On a Feeling, or Why Does It Feel so Good to Feel so Bad?

What do you and I have in common with the alcoholic on the curb, chain smoker, or heroin addict? It turns out it could be a lot more that we think!

Every single one of the cells in our bodies have opiate receptors which are meant to be docking stations for endorphins, produced by our hypothalamus. What scientists have discovered is that emotions of all kinds produce peptides, which also dock on in the receptors in the cell. When we experience the same emotion again and again, our bodies opiate receptors begin to expect that emotion’s particular peptide. In other words, your body becomes addicted to that particular emotion, even if it’s a form of fear.

That explains why we keep on manifesting experiences and situations in our lives we say we don’t want! This is also why manifesting what we do want is so difficult!

Another way of looking at it is that our emotions become our story, and we believe our story because it happens to us over and over again. The reason we’re in a rut is because we’re addicted to the emotions of our story. And as Ellen Glasgow once said, “The only difference between a rut and a grave is their dimensions.” Given that, it’s no wonder so many people walk around looking like the living dead.

You want to hear another “secret?” It’s only a story. It’s only as real as you want it to be.

Do you want your everyday reality to be different? Change the story!

Today, make a list of ¬†your addictions, like stress, worry, insecurity, insisting on being right, being self-righteous, control, anger, bossiness, fear, inflexibility, etc. Tomorrow, I’ll talk about what to do about them.